tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post1894006568456258583..comments2023-10-11T02:09:22.882-07:00Comments on Woman.Anonymous7: A relationship between hatred and fearwoman.anonymous7http://www.blogger.com/profile/09360902845606513227noreply@blogger.comBlogger6125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post-25671896882653014942008-09-20T07:11:00.000-07:002008-09-20T07:11:00.000-07:00I feel that your honest writings really help me th...I feel that your honest writings really help me through my difficult issues with my own husband. Within the last month I have found out that my husband also has a sex addiction, one that is different than your husbands. He has prayed on children. If there is anyone out there who would like to help me work through my feelings and offer me help, please visit my blog at troubledsusie.blogspot.com. Thank you.Susie Qhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06998970189683246821noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post-43769924005796844752008-06-19T00:09:00.000-07:002008-06-19T00:09:00.000-07:00Davka - I heartily agree with your thoughts on our...Davka - I heartily agree with your thoughts on our culture. Since I've become more sensitive to sexually suggestive material, I've noticed how much I'm surrounded by it. Not just actual pornography, but billboards, magazine ads in all kinds of advertising, how women are portrayed on TV. <BR/><BR/>Rising above the indirect messaging we receive requires a thoughtful mind, which is not everyone's blessing.<BR/><BR/>RE: sex addiction, it's not limited to men, which makes it a bit easier for me to process. There are several interesting blogs I've found by women who have compulsive sex. Here are a couple if you're interested in exploring:<BR/><BR/>http://raesconfessions.blogspot.com/2008/06/letting-go-of-lie.html<BR/><BR/>http://thegentlepath.wordpress.com/<BR/><BR/>Also, blogs by prostitutes offer insight into the female sex addict perspective, as some of these women are also sex addicts.<BR/><BR/>If it wasn't an issue faced by both men and women, personally I wouldn't be able to accept it as a valid illness.woman.anonymous7https://www.blogger.com/profile/09360902845606513227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post-27574232093792524882008-06-18T15:08:00.000-07:002008-06-18T15:08:00.000-07:00ugh- sometimes it seems that this whole sex addict...ugh- sometimes it seems that this whole sex addict spiel is a way to make the wives feel guilty and responsible. acting out on negativity toward the spouse? women don't act out in this way. what a way to pass the buck.<BR/><BR/>i think i represent your regular reader who doesn't know a lot about sex addiction, so maybe i am voicing naive things- but really. it makes me mad that a man can do this and then be told by therapists that he is just acting out his negativity toward the spouse when maybe he was just raised in a culture that has no respect for women and finds nothing wrong with fucking around, nothing wrong until they get caught. like a cognitive dissidence.davkahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05970105614312371980noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post-11349498649145858252008-06-16T10:46:00.000-07:002008-06-16T10:46:00.000-07:00Honest and powerful. It almost sounds like shell s...Honest and powerful. It almost sounds like shell shock, from past expierences. Your writing is lovely even though the subject matter is so painful.Wait. What?https://www.blogger.com/profile/16914656489970904052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post-4145213668684906372008-06-16T09:46:00.000-07:002008-06-16T09:46:00.000-07:00This was an amazing post--it really spoke to me an...This was an amazing post--it really spoke to me and articulated some of my own fears. In my relationship, I think what causes the most anxiety is not the acting out itself, but the idea that my husband is bottling up negative emotions and not sharing them with me. I feel like if he would simply come to me and tell me what's bothering him, then I'd be able to fix it so he wouldn't feel the need to express his feelings in unhealthy, passive agressive ways.<BR/><BR/>But I don't think sex addicts are always acting out against their partners, even though it seems that way since the infidelity hurts the partner more than anyone else. This is how they've been dealing with negative feelings for most of their lives--way before they were married to us.MargauxMeadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12825471511010339716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post-26831377102856310012008-06-16T06:24:00.000-07:002008-06-16T06:24:00.000-07:00Beautiful, heartfelt share, filled with a great pr...Beautiful, heartfelt share, filled with a great process for working through those really difficult feelings. Thanks for the inspiration. I love it. <BR/><BR/>A friend of mine was once going through some anxiety in her heart and mind, and one morning she closed her eyes in prayer and the small, still voice inside said "Do you trust me?" <BR/><BR/>It's been a great mantra for me to help me remember that I am not alone, when I am not having faith, and that this whole recovery process is a spiritual process in which I learn that no matter what ... I am never alone, I am OK, I simply have to close my eyes and say ... "I trust you. I need you." <BR/><BR/>God bless you on this journey. No matter what side of it you are on, it is incredibly painful. I can imagine that the inability to trust him is as much about the inability to trust you. That is the horrible after effect of deception. <BR/><BR/>Thanks so much for your visit to my blog yesterday and your kind comments. I pray for your journey and a quietness of spirit for you.Raehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13352920897908430774noreply@blogger.com