tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post2865381806665507136..comments2023-10-11T02:09:22.882-07:00Comments on Woman.Anonymous7: Wrestling with my Selfwoman.anonymous7http://www.blogger.com/profile/09360902845606513227noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post-66257580294425912772009-02-23T15:07:00.000-08:002009-02-23T15:07:00.000-08:00MargauxMeade - Thanks so much for your reminder. O...MargauxMeade - Thanks so much for your reminder. On most days I can keep myself present to the fact that Husband was, for lack of a better term, "posessed" when he was active in his addiction. On bad days the lines blur for me again and old questions and doubts resurface.<BR/><BR/>Many of the few friends who know what we've been going through (none of whom have experienced sex addiction as an addict or partner) wonder or just can't understand why I stay with someone who has done what husband has done.<BR/> <BR/>Reminders from others like you who are also on this journey help assure me that I'm not crazy for allowing for the separation of Husband and his addict.<BR/><BR/>And if I separate out hurts and resentments of the past and look only at the facts as they are now, it's clear that Husband IS a different person. Of course that's no guarantee, but as I learn to accept what I can and can't control in life (the future, for example) I can more consistently focus on and appreciate how good the present moment is.woman.anonymous7https://www.blogger.com/profile/09360902845606513227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post-1686050956870957802009-02-23T08:29:00.000-08:002009-02-23T08:29:00.000-08:00I love that you pointed out that clarity is an imp...I love that you pointed out that clarity is an impermanent state. That's something I often forget.<BR/><BR/>As far as the taxes go, I understand those feelings of resentment. I'm in a weird situation because I've known about my husband's sex addiction for much of our relationship and I've watched it progress to that crazy place where, besides acting like a lunatic in general, the addict forgets to do important things (my husband and I are separated now, and he "forgot" to pay the rent for three months and, when I came to collect my stuff from the apartment, our cats were emaciated--he "forgot" to feed them). Anyway, since I've watched my husband turn into a completely different person, I feel compelled to tell wives who discovered the sex addiction after the fact this: Your husband truly wasn't in his right mind when he was doing these things. The person my husband is right now is NOT the person I fell in love with--that's how much he's changed over the course of this addiction.MargauxMeadehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12825471511010339716noreply@blogger.com