tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post8783250675981025033..comments2023-10-11T02:09:22.882-07:00Comments on Woman.Anonymous7: Sometimes I forget why I'm still herewoman.anonymous7http://www.blogger.com/profile/09360902845606513227noreply@blogger.comBlogger7125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post-68174357608391403552008-02-04T20:32:00.000-08:002008-02-04T20:32:00.000-08:00I'm with MPJ on this one. In the early days & mon...I'm with MPJ on this one. In the early days & months of recovery, any illness had the potential to send me into a tailspin & back to Day 1 of the nightmare. <BR/><BR/>Hoping you're feeling better.<BR/><BR/>Also, for what it's worth, for me when the pain of staying became greater than the fear & pain of leaving that's when I had my answer. And when that happened, a peace came over my life. The urgency of making a decision was gone. I was completely content & serene about the whole thing. Staying or leaving is something we all have to go thru & come to on our own.Kelleehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14867732773223483189noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post-30034253473930180912008-02-03T13:40:00.000-08:002008-02-03T13:40:00.000-08:00i preferred not to think i am "staying"--i truly t...i preferred not to think i am "staying"--i truly took it a day at a time, and my Al anon sponsor would tell me almost every day, "you dont have to make any decisions today." and i would exhale and go on about the business of living and raising kids and taking care of myself etc. when finally i realized it was not that i "can't do this anymore" it was actually "I wont' do this anymore" it was a true relief. only thing i would say is that dont make any huge life decisions right now. i think you said its been since july or so, but in the scope of things not long. and if at all possible, and i know you know this, try to step out of his program as much as humanly possible. the answers will come.super ladyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10708610302835327520noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post-16386560342247733302008-02-02T06:06:00.000-08:002008-02-02T06:06:00.000-08:00Between this post and the last one, you've got all...Between this post and the last one, you've got all kinds of thoughts rattling in my brain. I really should visit you more often. I don't have any answers but I share many of your struggles.Recovery Discovery (R)https://www.blogger.com/profile/04118170655390372410noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post-42947223607154305172008-02-01T15:42:00.000-08:002008-02-01T15:42:00.000-08:00I'm sorry for your pain and frustration. I know ho...I'm sorry for your pain and frustration. I know how hard it is to feel stuck, but to want to "wait out" the lesson. I'm learning more each day that "waiting it out" ... continuing to show up even though I have no freakin' reason why I do, is the right thing to do. Hang in there.Raehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13352920897908430774noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post-63778844045238094022008-01-30T14:41:00.000-08:002008-01-30T14:41:00.000-08:00I often find myself wondering which way out is the...I often find myself wondering which way out is the easy way out...I'm not sure which path would be harder, leaving or staying.joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01453075718683708291noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post-1459245031939743362008-01-29T21:22:00.000-08:002008-01-29T21:22:00.000-08:00I've learned not to underestimate how much sicknes...I've learned not to underestimate how much sickness can affect my mood. One little cold can undo months of work. Hope you are feeling better -- physically and otherwise -- soon.Mary P Jones (MPJ)https://www.blogger.com/profile/10251787926841410344noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8345462981115809499.post-75361295570998414242008-01-29T20:23:00.000-08:002008-01-29T20:23:00.000-08:00Dear I know. I noticed that you have been reading...Dear I know. I noticed that you have been reading a lot of buddhist texts. I've been a "practicing" buddhist for several years now, and the teachings, while simple and beautiful, are not always easy on us when it comes to pain. <BR/><BR/>I would also recommend www.recoverynation.com. Really really good resources and lessons for partners over there.VVhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08273669841835738893noreply@blogger.com