Surfing the comments out there it's evident that dispite some very public revelations this year, sex addiction continues to ride very below the radar and be misunderstood. And I don't read anything about people connecting the dots between addicts - seems like it's just another story about a man cheating on his wife, and of course people can't understand why because "she's so hot."
Of course, if your wife isn't hot, I guess everybody would understand then, huh?
This time around the story doesn't bring edge of pain that it did with Spitzer, which is good progress to report at the 1-year-and-3-months-since-discovery mark.
I really feel like I've turned the corner in my ability to consider that Husband is a different person. He says that he is, and intellectually I understand how that would be possible given the research I've done. But my body has resisted until recently. Not that I've resisted having sex, but I haven't felt anything close to the trust I had before in my gut.
Lately I feel as though I've let go of something physically. I can't name it, but it was something I was holding on to, or something that was gripping me.
Whatever it is, it feels like a gateway to the next level of healing.
That feels like a good place to be.
The Beginning of Something Else
On June 1, 2007 I found out my husband and partner of almost two decades had been unfaithful to me since before our marriage, and had been having intercourse with prostitutes for 3 1/2 years. This is what happened next.
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I'm glad you're feeling in a good place.
And I so agree. Sex addiction is so misunderstood and still not in the mainstream. I'm glad and sad each time it appears in the news -- glad that the word is getting out there (however garbled) but sad for the families involved.
I had the same feeling as you - less pain for myself personally upon seeing one more story of sexual addiction in the news. I too saw it as a good sign because I was able to really think about their story and wonder about their hearts and souls. I realized that I really am starting to heal a little. Nice to see it echoed in the words of another. I always enjoy your posts.
I always enjoy your posts too. So are you trusting more, or less, or differently?
Well...I'd say my gut is considering trusting. And I'm definitely feeling a little uneasy about it. (See today's post for more on that.)
Thank you all for visiting. The feeling of camararaderie that I have with our online community is an ongoing source of support and inspiriation.
the healing journey is slow and subtle, huh?
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