The Beginning of Something Else

On June 1, 2007 I found out my husband and partner of almost two decades had been unfaithful to me since before our marriage, and had been having intercourse with prostitutes for 3 1/2 years. This is what happened next.

Thursday, February 5, 2009

Remembered hurts

Close to two years now and I'm not sure that a day goes by without me having at least one thought about what Husband did.

Usually it doesn't really trigger me anymore, which is a sign of the progress I've made. But sometimes I get sad and start to feel distant, which is what has been happening lately.

GentlePath wrote today that "There’s a point where a remembered hurt can develop into a resentment — or it can morph into a springboard for learning and change."

I'm grateful to her for reminding me about the choice I face. Because I'm the path I'm on is one of growing, learning and change, and in this moment I am re-presenced to that.

Taking the next right action, one day (one moment) at a time.

2 comments:

Cat said...

I think the quote is so true - there is a point where the old pain can become resentment and that is ahrd to get out of once it is a habit...
I am still learning to let it go... slowly but surely a day at a time, we can make change happen in our lives.

zion said...

I am in the middle of one of those 'remembered hurts' today - what a great reminder that when this is happening...I have a choice about how to feel about it..