The Beginning of Something Else

On June 1, 2007 I found out my husband and partner of almost two decades had been unfaithful to me since before our marriage, and had been having intercourse with prostitutes for 3 1/2 years. This is what happened next.

Saturday, June 7, 2008

Getting others to do what you want

I've just read something I want to remember. In MPJ's post about the difficulty of changing behavior, she discusses the mistaken assumption that "making people realize just how poorly they've done or how much they've hurt people is an excellent way to provide that needed motivation, be it in the form of shame, guilt or even empathy."

Something for me to remember when I feel that need to have husband get how much he's hurt me.


BizyLizy said...


I've just spent the past couple of hours going through your story, and I have to say that I am so touched. Many of the feelings you have described reflect my own feelings of devastation and betrayal.

I commend both you and your husband in your efforts and journey towards peace and happiness.

Your words are honest and very touching.


Mary P Jones (MPJ) said...

If I could get myself to consistently remember my own words, I'd be set. ;) Hugs, Woman A.