Unearthing a barrier between us

If I met Husband now, and he told me about all the things he'd done, but he'd done them to somebody else; and told me how much he loved me and how he was committed to being honest and trustworthy and respectful in our relationship, to cherishing it and me, I think I'd have an easier time forming a deep bond with him.

But because he's lied to me (I know that it wasn't being done to me, because the sex addict is feeding his addiction just like the alcoholic or drug addict, but that's not the way it feels,) I've been feeling painfully worthless.

Thinking about it I've concluded that it's not so much that I think I'm worthless, but that I feel like he didn't value me enough to be honest, trustworthy and respectful the way he promised. Deep down I feel that if he'd really cherished me and our relationship more, he wouldn't have lied to me, particularly for so long and about something so intimate.

Intellectually I understand that this wasn't the case. But I can't shake the feelings. The pain I have in my heart and my gut about not feeling valued by the person I loved and valued the most stands between us. My body doesn't trust the intellectual assessment, and goes on doubting the moment.