Okay...what is it with men?

My housekeeper just found out that her husband of 10 years was cheating on her with a young woman. His response to the discovery was the same as Husbands in general terms: He loves her, he wants to work it out, (I'm feeling so cynical at the moment I want to say "blah, blah, blah..." but I'll resist because I don't doubt the pain and truth in his claim.)

Men need to be socialized differently so that they can express their internal conflict in other ways aside from betraying loving relationships.

I know...this is unfair, women cheat too, etc, but I'm venting! It's challenging to be on the receiving end of this shit and keep looking for the opportunity and the growth, and to continue to recognize such painful actions as them dealing with their problems. I read some statistic months ago about the high rate of infidelity among men compared to women. So clearly they lack something...self-expression, character, self-control...any way you slice it, it's not that appealing.

How do I raise my son to be a different kind of man?

Being the mother of a son becomes more complex in a way now, that Husband, who I believed so completely to be a man of integrity, has cheated and lied. I don't want to form opinions about "men" that I'll inadvertently convey to my boy. But as much as I try to be conscious of it, sometimes I feel that mindset creeping in.