The Beginning of Something Else

On June 1, 2007 I found out my husband and partner of almost two decades had been unfaithful to me since before our marriage, and had been having intercourse with prostitutes for 3 1/2 years. This is what happened next.

Tuesday, September 4, 2007

Another way to look at my situation

So the only thing that can really help me is me, right? So how about this:

I’m an early 40s woman with a 6 year old son. I’m involved with a new man. He’s smart and funny and talented and we’re interested in the same things, value the same things, share a very similar outlook on life. My son loves him, he loves my son, and he says he’s in love with me, too. In fact, he says he wants to spend the rest of his life with me. My body isn’t perfect, but he thinks it’s beautiful. I’m not a young model type, but he thinks I’m beautiful. He tells me I’m smart and funny and talented. He’s handsome, loving, generous, kind, tender and gentle. He’s a wonderful lover. He was in a long relationship before in which he made some serious mistakes, and had a major crisis. He learned a lot from that – a lot about himself, and about who he’ll be in a relationship now. He’ll never lie. He’ll be honest and communicate openly. He’s in therapy and in 12-step programs, and is ongoingly working on better understanding the origins of his addictions and works hard every day, and with intention, to be who he says he’s going to be one day at a time.

2 comments:

Stefanie said...

...And the alternative for you would be to not take a chance and get involved with this "new man," and to start anew with someone completely different, who has his own different set of issues, doesn't really know you and is not biologically or emotionally in love with your son. I think you're doing the right thing, however painful, confusing, maddening, heartbreaking it is....at least for now. If he lies again, then in my opinion, an even deeper pain begins, because there would be no third chance. My fingers are crossed and my faith is strong.

woman.anonymous7 said...

Thank you for your crossed fingers and strong faith. I believe the good thoughts, positive energy, prayers, crossed fingers and faith of others makes a difference in the success of our endeavors in all areas of life. I welcome all the support that comes my way as I navigate this path.