The Beginning of Something Else

On June 1, 2007 I found out my husband and partner of almost two decades had been unfaithful to me since before our marriage, and had been having intercourse with prostitutes for 3 1/2 years. This is what happened next.

Wednesday, October 31, 2007

Another Date with Husband

Husband surprised me with a date to see Bruce Springsteen tonight - part of our extended anniversary celebration.

I'd told him that I wanted to be sure to be doing things together around our anniversary, particularly on the 31st and the 1st, because I know that last year on Halloween he was trying to arrange a date with a prostitute while I was at my son's school Halloween party. I don't remember now if he was successful. It doesn't really matter. But it was the day before our anniversary. He says he didn't connect the two.

Tonight was wonderful. Seeing Springsteen is a spiritual experience for me. It's amazing to watch someone do something that they seem to love so much, and with so much passion and intensity. It's such a full's really moving to me. And both times I've seen him he's brought his progressive politics into the show, which I'm such a sucker for.

Being there with Husband felt good. The closeness and connection I thought we had before June 1st was present. It feels as if we're getting back some of what I thought we had before, but a more mature version of it in which I know and accept him as more of a real human being rather than the man who could do no wrong. It feels okay. I no longer feel so sad about losing that illusion.


Anonymous said...

I caught my husband engaging in questionable behavior on our anniversary earlier this year. At the time, I was unaware that he was a sex addict. He shared with me what he was doing weeks later once the news of his addiction came out. It still stings for me - my heart physically hurts when I think about exactly what it was he was participating in (with another woman) at a time when our marriage, vows, commitment and life together was what was on my mind.

I'm happy you two had fun at the concert and hope that your extended anniversary celebration continues for days and weeks and months to come!

The Hurting Heart

Mary P Jones (MPJ) said...

The acting out that led to my husband's admission that he is a sex addict happened right around my son's first birthday. I think it's no accident that big events and acting out tend to coincide.

So glad you had fun -- sounds like a great date.